Submissive

Assertive

Aggressive

Characteristics

May be emotionally dishonest, indirect, self-denying, inhibited

Is appropriately: emotionally honest, direct, self-enhancing, expressive

Is inappropriately: emotionally honest, direct, self-enhancing at the expense of another, expressive

Your feelings when you engage in this behavior

Hurt, anxious at the time, and possibly angry later

Confident, capable, self-respecting at the time and later

Righteous, superior, powerful at the time, and possibly guilty later

The other person's feelings about self when you engage in this behavior

Guilty or superior

Valued, respected

Hurt, humiliated

The other person's feelings about you when you engage in this behavior

Pity, irritation

Generally respected

Angry, vengeful